Sometimes the biggest things can happen in the mundane that can betaken for granted.
The boy has a strong will to do what he wants to do when he wants to do it. I think he gets that from his mom. :) From the beginning he has dug in and decided that he was going to do what he wanted. That was his school marching band at the time. He missed more than he wanted of it, but he did need a tiny bit of recovery from the ICU. Three days or so was enough for him.
He did pace himself, his pace was just well above what everyone around him thought it would be.
Once that season was over he crashed physically for awhile. But he moved forward with so much more. He focused so hard on school. He was determined to prove teachers wrong. Not only could he keep up with his college level courses..... he was going to pass them with flying colors. And he did just that.
The boy has always been easy going. Even to a fault. He is a laid back, introvert with a heart for second and 5th chances. He doesn't rock the boat. But then.....I saw that look on his face from behind the Bane like breathing mask. He "rebelled" and tore out the intubation tubes and defied the doctor by not allowing them back in. I As I held his arms and he fought that claustrophobic thing on his head... he turned his head to me and looked me dead in the eyes. "They WILL NOT put that back into me." The fire in those eyes was scary. It was determination and will that I hadn't seen in him. It was like looking in a mirror. :) And he did it. And he went on doing it each and every day since then.
This week when we got a fairly good amount of snow and a snow day he at the age of 17 went out to play in it. Precious moments for his mom. We spent two hours building a boy sized snowman. Not an easy task since he is 6 feet tall! Wet, cold, partially frozen we struggled to get it just right in size and then to actually build it. You see the "torso" was so big we couldn't lift it on the bottom. The bottom had gotten so big we couldn't roll it. I tried to give him alternatives. He would dig in and say no. We will get this. And we did. And an hour after he was done, the sun and melted the snow enough to make him topple over.
Parents have asked me over these past few months how I motivated him. He has taken his SAT and picked a college. He is moving forward with his studies towards that goal. He has a big plan for his major and what he wants his life to be. He has played his horns with power and love. He stays at school some days for 12 hours between classes, teachers and rehearsals.
I would love to take credit for this. But I can't. I didn't motivate him at all. I supported him, but he is driving this train. He found faith in himself and God in himself to go forward with life. He doesn't outwardly talk about faith but it is there. He knows that the life he is living today is an answer to thousands of prayers. So mom doesn't need to motivate him....he has this covered.
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